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The Challenge of Seeking for “The Perfect”

Perfection is for geometry, not expectations. Especially in human relationships. These matchmaking sites can only filter so far when one is seeking the perfect partner, I suggest.
So did you have the perfect parents, or wish they were? How about perfect siblings or children?
Let’s face it It’s a fantasy to expect people to meet your expectations. It is more of an adventure to find that they do not. Whimsy makes for more delight, being caught off guard makes for not being bored, and an error, or mistake in perception leading to an argument lends another opportunity to practice forgiveness.
Really, being grateful, thankful and appreciative for someone who is important to you is an act of self-kindness. Perhaps you haven’t measured up to their ‘Perfection-measuring’ tape either.

Hawaii 2012 Hi, everyone, Let me tell you how I finally got to my first visit to Hawaii!

Hi everyone,  Here’s the story:  I had just heard last May of a new style of Manifesting your desires.  Previous plans had the goal at the top of the chart with a ‘to-do’ list to go down beneath.  This new style was much less stressful.

  You put a wish (a drawing picture or word) in the center of a blank chart and wait for your spiritual consierge (aka Holy Spirit) to gift you with a progressive experience until the goal is fulfilled.  This gift is written at the end of a sun-ray as it is received leaving you with a joyful heart of gratitude.

  I took a large white drawing board and wrote ‘Hawaii’ in the center.  Sure, the desire was born of jealousy.  Sure spiritual masters don’t care where they are.  But, hey, my sister had gone already six times!  And I was trying out this style of working with the Universe.  I believe it has the power and wisdom to work things out for the best for all concerned better than my pea-brain efforts.

  The next thing I knew it was June 20th when I suddenly remembered it had been a year since I’d gone on my Bahamas cruise.  Oh, yes.  There was a paid-for plane ticket in Gary’s name still unused!  I put a call in to United.  Oh, no, it was already past the forfeit date, but if a booking was made today they would reinstate it.  I was on the phone to Gary in a heartbeat.  He told me to research possibilities.  Of course I researched Hawaii.  But since I planned to go the cheapest way I researched Allegiant’s deals.  I checked availability after labor day since Gary said September was probably toward the end of his work season in construction.

  I found the best deal was Allegiant to Honolulu from Las Vegas Sat.Sept. 8th returning the following Fri. the 14th. with a Castle Hokele hotel special and promo code of 50% off.  The package including one carry-on each was around $1,300! 

  The unused ticket was for United, however.  I’d better not do any booking until Gary agrees.  He says partners don’t make unilateral descisions for the other.  He said he’d check flights to and from Las Vegas on United from Bozeman, Montana.  When he called back June 22nd, the first thing he said was, “Aloha!”

  Wow! The rays out from the center of my chart were beginning to look like the many beams radiating out from the sun. I watched Hawaii 5-0, TV Surfer movies, Paintings/ Music/ News/ Books and atlases and research  all telling me what to expect, where to get the best deals and the most activities for the dollar.

  Now I like to think of myself as an excellent researcher- so I spent the next three months online for hours looking up and interviewing people.  What was the best way to experience Hawaii?

  More than one island?  No- Oahu was it.  Learn to surf…golf?  No.  But i made lists of Museums, water-parks, luaus, hikes to waterfalls, tours, art-walks and the Polynesian Cultural Center.  Gary was amazed at my ever-increasing ‘to-do’ list!

  “Wait a minute!  Don’t lock me into your huff-and-puff, go-and-do stuff!  I’m going on vacation to sit in the sand with my feet in the water!”

  “Oh, then you don’t think I should buy a $208 Go Oahu card prepaying my admission to 30 ativities?”

“No, we can’t pack all that in one week and still relax!”

  I should have put pictures of my desired activities on another poster.  I really wanted to snorkel and see fish out on the reef.  I wanted to ride a boogie-board on the foam, and have my first kayak ride.  But partner only agreed to hike Diamond-head, see the blow-hole, visit Kailua beach and one tour-bus to a luau.  “You go shop while I go to the beach,” he said.

  He gave me a start locating booths of dickering salesmen under the huge International Marketplace Banyan tree. I negotiated the price of dresses down from $25 to $14 and Gary only paid $13 for his $20 Hawaiian shirt!  BUT, as we were leaving a salesman stopped us with a free gift.  Tickets to the Polynesian Cultural Center Luau and show if we’d only listen to a sales pitch for 90 minutes!  After three hours we got  our free tickets, but still we had to pay the bus there and back ($26 ea.) and tour guide with lunch ($26each)

  Still we saved big by filling the fridge from a stop at Walmart less than two miles from our hotel.  I purchased cottage cheese and added cut up    pineapple that I brought home from Germain’s Luau.  Yum!

  The sky was blue, the sea was clear and warm and my mind and body relaxed in the tropical sun.  Hm, I’ll leave my ‘to-do’ lists up to my spiritual consierge next time.  Next time?  Oh, yes!  Definitely!Image