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The Challenge of Seeking for “The Perfect”

Perfection is for geometry, not expectations. Especially in human relationships. These matchmaking sites can only filter so far when one is seeking the perfect partner, I suggest.
So did you have the perfect parents, or wish they were? How about perfect siblings or children?
Let’s face it It’s a fantasy to expect people to meet your expectations. It is more of an adventure to find that they do not. Whimsy makes for more delight, being caught off guard makes for not being bored, and an error, or mistake in perception leading to an argument lends another opportunity to practice forgiveness.
Really, being grateful, thankful and appreciative for someone who is important to you is an act of self-kindness. Perhaps you haven’t measured up to their ‘Perfection-measuring’ tape either.

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I Want to Address Depression and it’s main Feeder: Complaining YEOUCH! : Yell/ Examine or Emote/ Observe/ Utter/ Challenge/ Help another who may have the same or similar case. Pause and rewind what you just said. WAS it positive or negative? Teddy Roosevelt once said, “Complaining about a problem without posing a solution is called whining.” (That rhymes with lining. ) CNN etc. want us to become a culture of whiners; to complain and loudly about the unfairness of life. To be eager to shift the blame to other causes for our misfortunes instead of our projected interpretations. It seems we have acquired a taste for sourness that is most gratifying! And it sours our world outlook! It rewires our brains to negativity pings – “Yum, sour grapes! Optimism! What! Be thankful and grateful? Sorry, that’s unreal!”

Your complaining at first gets others’ pity, sympathy, advice and efforts to lift your spirits. But after a bit it drains their energy and sours their milk of human kindness. Ever notice them looking into their heartfelt giving tank and coming up dry? Are they feeling a lack of gratitude and sense they are tired of the ‘Me-me drama’ record? Is your dark cloud-face coming a reason to cross to a sunnier side of the street? Anticipating the sound of wounded victim and watching ‘down-spiriling actions’ is a downer that most health-conscious can do without. Seriously!
So, if you absolutely need to vent, be valiant, and serve on your smorgasbord of voice, a choice. A variety of gratitude sandwiches. So you’ve got a pickle? Got a Beef? Spread some Mayo-Praise! Layer with Joy-onion. Sprinkle with bacon-crispy snappy jokes! You’ll be feeling and serving a better mood-wich!